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Carrying the BAG – After Abortion

Carrying the BAG is a four part series regarding abortion and the women that suffered the loss of their child or children – the Post Abortive Woman.  Abortion changes everyone’s life.

About 43% of all women, 45 years old and under are Post Abortive. Nearly half of them will or have aborted again.

Abortion kills, abortion binds the hands of God. But abortion is forgivable.

Carrying the BAG, part 1

‘The Truth about Death’

God gave us ‘free will’; the ability to choose right from wrong. Throughout the ages, the freedom to choose has destroyed life rather than protect it.

Deuteronomy 30:19 says, ‘I call heaven and earth to witness against you today, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and curse. Therefore choose life, that you and your offspring may live…’

The world will tell you that an unborn child is not a ‘baby’ until ____. There is a reason why I left it blank. There are many answers to that question according to the Supreme Court, state and federal law.

God is the Creator of everything and everyone. So, let’s go to the Word of God!

1)When does life begin? 2)Who gives life? 3)Who takes life? Answers (yes, there might be a quiz later):

  1. Before conception – Jeremiah 1:5
  2. God – Psalm 139:13-14
  3. God – Job 1:21

The big question that both sides of the abortion issue ask is “Does life begin at conception”? The answer is a resounding Absolutely NOT. Life began long before your natural parents knew each other. As stated in Jeremiah 1:5, we were known to God and already had a purpose and ministry mapped before us. As well in Jeremiah 29:11, ‘For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope’. See scriptures here.

An unborn child at conception is an eternal being that has a divine purpose that was first created and loved by God, second by his/her parents. Women have been entrusted with the incredible ability and opportunity to give life to an eternal soul created in the image of God! What an honor!

Lawmakers that believed the abortion lie did not know God as Creator, nor did they know God as God at all. Think of it this way: if walking down the street you see someone that’s homeless – are you moved to help or pray for that person or do you think this person was a mistake because of that person’s circumstances? Answer that HONESTLY. Remember, God hears you.

When we are physically made, we go through a myriad of changes every day during gestation. Here’s  what a brand new unborn child goes through in the first 9 weeks of life:

  • 7 days – now has his/her own blood cells; placenta has formed
  • 19 days – heart begins to beat
  • 20 days – foundation of the nervous system is laid
  • 24 days – heart now has regular beats
  • 30 days – regular blood flow within the vascular system begins; ear and nasal development
  • 35 days – eyes start to develop; 40 pairs of muscles are present
  • 40 days – heart output is 20% of an adult
  • 42 days – brain waves are detectable
  • 49 days – skeletal system is developed, fingers, toes and ears
  • 50 days – internal organs and external structures are identifiable
  • 56 days – all organs are functioning (stomach, liver, kidneys, brain); all systems are intact.
  • 9th week – teeth begin to form; fingernails develops and the baby can now squint, swallow and can retract their tongue.

It is at about the 9th week that most abortions are performed; it is also when the unborn child is complete – at this point, he/she only needs nourishment and time to grow.

Carrying the BAG, part 2

‘Accepting the Truth about Life’

Romans 3:23 says, ‘For all have sinned and come short of the Glory of God’.

All of us! Every Christian has failed, bar NONE. Actually, that makes me feel a bit better that I’m not the only failure! But thank GOD for forgiveness.

Yes, abortion is forgivable.

In part 1 of Carrying the Bag, we defined what Life is in the eyes of God according to His living Word. Our lives were known by God long before our parents knew us. That simple statement reminds me how important my life is to Him and the Kingdom! But when we abort, we bind the hands of God from what that tiny life would have been capable of in the Kingdom. Talk about falling short of the Glory of God! When you aborted, you told God NO.

Repentance brings forgiveness! Have you asked God out loud to forgive you? With forgiveness, now we can take responsibility for our sin: Psalm 32:5 says, ‘I acknowledged my sin to you, and I did not cover my iniquity; I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the LORD,” and You forgave the iniquity of my sin.’ King David is a perfect example of someone that really fell short of what God had for him, his repentance and his victory: ‘Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me,’ (Psalm 51:10).

You ask, ‘Why did this happen to me? Why didn’t God love me enough to stop me?’ I assure you, He gives us every opportunity to NOT sin, but we are human. God either causes or allows heartbreak, grief, failure, death and sickness to allow us to grow in grace and knowledge of Him and His Word. Once we mere humans understand that His way is perfect, no matter how it doesn’t make sense to us; it is His Divine Will. Upon recognizing this, we can let go and let God. ‘The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly,’ (John 10:10).

Now we can realize the responsibility of the abortion. We don’t walk away from abortion unscathed; it’s a horrible secret we carry around in a heavy, heavy bag everyday everywhere we go. How many years have you Carried the Bag? How has your life changed since the abortion?

Post Abortion Syndrome is a response to the ‘stress’ of abortion on the mother (and sometimes to the father); a phenomenon that can manifest sometimes years after the abortion. PAS can involve a long period of recovery mostly because the manifestations are so extreme and agonizing. Indications of PAS are (not necessarily limited to):

  1. Alcohol and/or Drug abuse
  2. Eating disorders
  3. Child neglect or abuse
  4. Divorce or divorces; Chronic relationship problems
  5. Promiscuity/Sexual dysfunction
  6. Depression/Suicidal
  7. Isolation/Anxiety
  8. Repeat abortions.

We need to recognize the constant battle being fought for our very soul. It is our persistence in the things of God and pressing toward the Goal – living a Cross-centered life – that makes the devil mad and makes us better women of God. We are Blessed and highly favored! You will never forget that day your abortion took place. But giving this burden to God is not only freeing to you but He wants you to!

Romans 8:1 says, ‘There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.’

Carrying the BAG, part 3

‘Pain and Loss’

2 Samuel 12:22-23 says, ‘(v22)He said, “While the child was still alive, I fasted and wept, for I said, ‘Who knows whether the LORD will be gracious to me, that the child may live?’ (v23)But now he is dead. Why should I fast? Can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he will not return to me.’

Through the horrific sin that David committed, he would still be blessed mightily by God – David and Bathsheba would later have another son, Solomon, who was one of the greatest men of God. Sin can breed sin OR we can learn from it. David repented and became a man after God’s own heart. The most important part of this particular scripture is that David knows he will see his dead son again in Heaven.

Yes, babies DO go to Heaven!

Have you walked around long enough feeling that God has let you down? ‘Yet we esteemed Him stricken’ – the Bible says that we viewed Jesus as a wounded man (Isaiah 53:4) before we understood the truth of Salvation. Jesus was not left alone to die on the Cross and you were not alone when you lost your baby. Nor are you alone today! You made a decision to abort, but would you make that same decision today? Of course not! You have learned through grief and loss that a baby’s life was taken – it wasn’t a fertilized egg, it wasn’t a blastocyst, it wasn’t an embryo, it wasn’t a fetus. It was a human life that God made in His likeness, ‘Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, after our likeness*. And let them have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over the livestock and over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth,” (Genesis 1:26).

Broken Trust

Proverbs 6:16-19 tells us what God hates; Scripture says that He hates six things and seven are an abomination to Him. Think about the lies you were told about your unborn baby by the media, counselors, practitioners and doctors at the abortion clinic:

  1. Haughty eyes – a look of superiority from those that think an abortion is ‘best’ for YOU
  2. Lying tongue – ‘It’s not a baby yet’
  3. Hands that shed innocent blood – abortion doctors & their staff
  4. A heart that devises wicked plans – ACLU & the Supreme Court
  5. Feet that makes haste to run to evil – moderates and democrats that support the abortion agenda
  6. A false witness who breathes out lies – the family member, friend, boyfriend that encouraged your abortion for their own agenda
  7. One who sows discord among the brethren – those that caused the division and offense in your time of need instead of loving kindness keenly expressed by the Holy Spirit to give; weak churches & preachers that do not stand up for the rights of the unborn.

Woman of God, you have suffered a great amount of pain and loss. God in His foreknowledge knew we would sin; and with sin grief, to know pain and loss, then heartbrokenness – but God is so GOOD! He gave us Jesus that we would be healed of our loss:

“But he was wounded for our transgressions; he was crushed for our iniquities; upon him was the chastisement that brought us peace, and with his stripes we are healed,” (Isaiah 53:5).

Today is a new day that was given to us by God to start new and rejoice! Forgiveness is the first step in your grieving process. Matthew 18:21-23 says, ‘(v21)Then Peter came up and said to him, “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?” (v22)Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy times seven.”

Jesus forgave those that crucified Him. Honestly, if He can forgive his assailants and murderers, then I can forgive, too. Luke 23:33-34 says, ‘(v33)And when they came to the place that is called The Skull, there they crucified him, and the criminals, one on his right and one on his left. (v34)And Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do…”’

*‘Our image, our likeness’ refers to the Holy Trinity – Father, Son & Holy Spirit.

Carrying the BAG, part 4

‘Set Free’

The Apostle Paul wrote much of his epistles in chains – in prison. Paul understood that he had much to do for God regardless of his situation. Being in prison would seem like there was no hope, so why bother? But that’s not how God works, ‘I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus,’ (Philippians 3:14).

The trauma of the Post Abortive woman is a very mighty thing when you “Carry the BAG”. It seems impassable, almost improbable to overcome. But God chose those that the world has looked down upon to rise up and show other Post Abortive women how to heal and recover:

1Corinthians 1:27-28, (v27)“But God chose what is foolish in the world to shame the wise; God chose what is weak in the world to shame the strong; (v28)God chose what is low and despised in the world, even things that are not, to bring to nothing things that are…”

Satan is still trying to restrain you from your call from God. You may still have fear and shame because of your abortion – you might still isolate and feel inferior. But God’s call is greater than that, ‘And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you,’ (1Peter 5:10). We have been SET FREE from sin! God is so good! He gave us Jesus to set us free from ALL unrighteousness – our sin is under His shed Blood! Satan no longer has a grip on your ON YOUR SIN!

Spread the Good News of Restoration & Healing!

There are many thousands of victims (women AND men) of abortion that are in your church, your neighbor, even your closest friend or relative that needs to tell their story about their abortion. Sharing with them can help set them free from the burden of Carrying the BAG. Your encouraging words can set the stage for healing and forgiveness to begin. Let God use you! Remember, 43%* of women are Post Abortive; 47% of Post Abortive women will or have aborted again. The only way we can stop abortion is one heart at a time.

We are a constant work in progress! Just as the Book of Acts is a continuing story of the ‘church’; such are we as the body of Christ for ‘there is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.’

Jeremiah 18:1-4 says, ‘(v1)The word that came to Jeremiah from the LORD: (v2)”Arise, and go down to the potter’s house, and there I will let you hear my words.”(v 3)So I went down to the potter’s house, and there he was working at his wheel. (v4)And the vessel he was making of clay was spoiled in the potter’s hand, and he reworked it into another vessel, as it seemed good to the potter to do.’

One baby at a time, one mom at a time, one heart at a time.

*43% of women will have had an abortion by the age of 45.

All Scripture references are in English Standard Version.

The Post Abortive Woman & a Providential God

This time of year brings up a bevy of emotions for everyone, good and bad. Women who have lost a child to abortion feel abandoned and dismal. We are pariah, we are the most inhuman, according to the world. Why are we here? Is there a reason for all of this? Does it have to hurt this bad? WHY ME?? No one is on this Earth by accident. We are not an abysmal science experiment. We are not a by-product of an accidental explosion. Humans have not evolved from soulless single-cell bits and pieces that randomly came together over billions of years:

‘I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well.’ Psalm 139:14

God made us perfectly and with purpose. We were not set up to fail; we were created to know a loving God. That may be the only instinct that humans have. There is not one thing that will keep you from the Kingdom of God, except unbelief. Everyone that has or will be born has a specific task that God has chosen. We have been allowed to sin and sin and sin so that one day we would turn and seek God.

‘And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.’ Romans 8:28

We have been put in the position to jeopardize and destroy what is His first – our unborn child. Because of circumstances that seem to be out of our control we destroy what is His. We are under a misunderstanding that God makes humans for amusement, not with a soul and purpose. Through our own difficult decisions and circumstances, we are where we are in our lives right now. We made those choices, He allowed them.

BUT: I was foreknown by Him, not by my parents or my family. Aborted children were known by God first: For whom He foreknew, He also predestined to be conformed to the image of His Son, that He might be the firstborn among many brethren.’ Romans 8:29

Just as God has allowed us to sin and destroy, we humans allow others to dictate our lives with godlessness and void. Post Abortive women allowed their child to be destroyed by human hands. Just as the sun will come up every morning, so is the evidence that a child died at my request.

‘Before I formed you in the womb I knew you; Before you were born I sanctified you; I ordained you a prophet to the nations.’ Jeremiah 1:5

CHOICE destroyed what was God’s first…’NOW faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen’. Praise God for His forgiveness and taking care of my child until I can see him again.