I don’t often write about post-abortive fathers simply because I’m not one, but I do know men that are. Men are funny creatures; they keep a lot close to the vest, maybe because of shame or they really don’t know how to share something so personal they don’t understand; perhaps because their partner/spouse at the time of the abortion didn’t tell them until after the abortion? The latter happens much more than you’d think.
Abortion is supposed to be about and for women, right? According to the law, it is. But there was never an amendment to allow a man to be in the decision making process and that was by design. Women wanted to be more powerful than men being able to hold their unborn child hostage.
A famous rock star ‘came out’ about the abortion he and his girlfriend had back in the ‘70’s. If I read it correctly, it was a saline abortion which is maybe the most heinous way to end a life, “You go to the doctor and they put the needle in her belly and they squeeze the stuff in and you watch. And it comes out dead. I was pretty devastated.” He knew it was a son. Apparently he witnessed this awful thing and he suffered with post-traumatic stress for years. I can let you know this: Abortion is something one never forgets. Ever.
Some of us mark that tragic event with alcohol or drugs or whatever even though the “American Psychiatric Association assures us abortion is a safe procedure with no negative effects on a man’s or a woman’s mental health.” (National Review, 5/4/11)
Post-abortive men and women can’t make sense of the fragments of their lives and when you have ‘experts’ calling us liars, it moves you further and further into the hole that’s been dug for you by Roe v. Wade and Hell itself. We deal with propaganda from the ‘abortion agenda’ daily and I TAKE IT PERSONALLY.
King David grieved for his child that died as a result of sin, “And he said, “While the child was alive, I fasted and wept; for I said, ‘Who can tell whether the LORD will be gracious to me, that the child may live?’ But now he is dead; why should I fast? Can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he shall not return to me.” 2Samuel 12:22-23, NKJV
David had comfort in knowing he would see his child again one day in Heaven. It was his reassurance that God did love him and his child and that His Will is Perfect.
The post-abortive man feels less of a man because he can’t control the loss of a child or the decision he made for his partner/spouse. What he needs to do is understand that his child is nestled with the Father. Since the loss of my child through abortion, I have not been comforted with booze or any other deliberate sin although I tried. But I am comforted by God’s forgiveness and that my child is with Him…and I will see her one day because of God’s mercy.