INTRODUCTION: ‘The Failure of Abortion’ is a five part series examining why we ended up on the abortionist’s table. Women are life-givers; women are entrusted by God to give life through birth, not take it. God gives us every tool we will ever need to be a parent. He has not and will not forsake anyone because they chose LIFE. But abortion happens every day, at least 4000 times per day just in the United States alone.
There is only one reason why we abort: FAILURE. Yes, failure – because there is not one good reason or purpose for aborting an unborn child; thus the answer to the abortion question is always FAILURE. Do NOT let the 1% (rape/incest/abnormalities) sway you to choose abortion and NEVER let the 1% take away your restoration or keep you from being 100% PROLIFE; think of the Parable of the Lost Sheep:
“What man of you, having a hundred sheep, if he loses one of them, does not leave the ninety-nine in the wilderness, and go after the one which is lost until he finds it? And when he has found it, he lays it on his shoulders, rejoicing. And when he comes home, he calls together his friends and neighbors, saying to them, ‘Rejoice with me, for I have found my sheep which was lost!’ I say to you that likewise there will be more joy in heaven over one sinner who repents than over ninety-nine just persons who need no repentance.” Luke 15:4-7
This series is for Post-Abortive and Pre-Abortive women and men. It is always the goal of KeepLifeLegal to steer the pre-abortive to parenthood instead of abortion death; however at least 1/3 of women and girls in the United States is post-abortive and need to heal. In order to heal we need to forgive and we need to be valuable once again – we also need to accept the fact that we failed along the way to get us to where we are today. Our failure can be our gain if we face it, accept it and forgive.
We will look at 5 types of failure that causes women and girls to abort:
- Failure in Right Relationships
- Failure in Right Decisions
- Failure in the System/Government
- Failure in the Church
- Failure in Forgiveness
Failure is a tough word to swallow, it’s like this horrible demon that follows us and torments us wherever we go as a continual reminder of our indiscretions and carelessness of our lives. We did not end up on the abortionist’s table with the beaming smile of a martyr; we are not there because it is for the ‘best’ – we are there because we are broken and FAILED miserably.
Ultimately, we will understand that through failure we can forgive and be forgiven for our abortion failure. Is our affliction too hard to overcome? Nothing is too hard for God and He means for you to be healed, restored and FORGIVEN.
NEVER forget that YOU are also made in His image and created for such a time as this:
“For if you remain completely silent at this time, relief and deliverance will arise for the Jews from another place, but you and your father’s house will perish. Yet who knows whether you have come to the kingdom for such a time as this?” Esther 4:14
THE FAILURE OF ABORTION, PART 1 – Failure in Right Relationships
How did we get here? What was the sequence of events that led us to the abortionist’s table? How did we ever get to the point in our lives that sacrificing a living unborn human being to be the right answer to anything? Who told you the lie that abortion is ever a right answer?
Our failure in right relationships is key to where we are in our lives, particularly in abortion failure. Think of the sequence: 1) Met him/her (yes, men are post-abortive), 2) had sexual relations without the benefit of marriage, 3) pregnancy became the result of the sexual relationship.
As elementary as that sounds, many other factors are in the mix. Being pregnant and unmarried brings in a plethora of people that feel they have the right to end your pregnancy. Think you’re alone? THINK AGAIN.
Who are the usual suspects in deciding your unborn baby’s fate? Remember, these people want your baby to die an abortion death for THEIR benefit:
- Parents. Yes, parents. Right now, they are worried about themselves, not you
- Boyfriend/Girlfriend. This is when you find out how they really feel about you, or DON’T feel about you
- Friends. Incredibly, everyone has either had an abortion or knows someone close that has and they say they got over it
- Extended Family. This is where you find out about all of your post-abortive family members. Prepare to be amazed.
The father (or mother) of the baby, parents, friends and extended family feel they can make this decision for you, to protect you. They know better than you, they know what is best for you and have NO problem letting you know that your baby is about to ruin your life. However, the opposite is true: YOUR UNBORN BABY is going to ruin their lives, their reputation and their finances. What they don’t realize or CARE about is that it is your life that will change forever if you end the life of your unborn baby. The grief is immeasurable; the grief is forever and no one else will go through it but you.
These failed relationships mentioned in the paragraphs above are what brought us to the abortionist’s table – believing we are doing some kind of great humanitarian work by silencing the life of another to soothe a temporary situation FOR THEM. After abortion, everyone’s agenda becomes clear.
Our personal failure in relationships is not something that happened overnight. We procured and fed these relationships because of our own need to be accepted. We reluctantly gave in to social pressure because of our need for acceptance in the culture of the world. We lose our innocence; we maintain a steady quiet reluctance – all for the love we feel we need in order to survive. In the eyes of the world we have passed the test and now on our way to losing any respect we had for ourselves.
“And they heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and Adam and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the Lord God among the trees of the garden.” Genesis 3:8
We hide these failed relationships and what it has produced but what we really fail to do is know that God sees and hears everything. We cannot hide our abortion failure from God even though we make a nice front for everyone else. The failure of abortion results from years of wrong relationships. We trust, we get hurt. We love, we are abandoned. We get abort, we are ostracized. We expected more, we are let down.
But there is good news! Yes, we lost our baby to abortion. Yes, we are ostracized (thankfully!) from the social circle that led us to the abortionist’s table….but God has not left you! We ignored Him, we set Him aside…and worse yet we didn’t believe in Him anymore:
“And the Lord, He is the One who goes before you. He will be with you, He will not leave you nor forsake you; do not fear nor be dismayed.” Deuteronomy 31:8
As this verse says, God goes before us to where we are about to go to save us from what the world will take from us. I FIRMLY believe that my abortion experience is where I went before you to show you that there is a better way than abortion. God knows what He is doing and He has used the afflicted to counsel you.
In finding right relationships, we look for more than the obvious…we look for the love of God rather than the love of the world, we think twice instead of not at all, and we are patient for the Glory that God has for us. And most of all, we ENDURE: “But he who endures to the end shall be saved.” Matthew 24:13
THE FAILURE OF ABORTION, PART 2 – Failure in Right Decisions
Just like throwing out ignored leftovers from the fridge, we are allowing unborn human life to be thrown out like wasted food from last night’s dinner without a thought. BAD DECISION. What motivates people to make abortion decisions…or who? How bad does life have to be to make the decision to abort?
Decisions…decisions. We ended up on the abortionist’s table because of a myriad of decisions, not just one. Our ability to reason is just one thing that separates us from the animals – that being said, our own reasoning has brought us to the point of ending unborn life and I haven’t seen any animals aborting their young.
But getting back to our own inability to make right decisions…let’s look at some of the great decision making that got us here:
- Premarital Sex. It is a fact that 100% of the people that practice abstinence will not get pregnant. No, really.
- Recreational alcohol and drug use. Not one good decision has ever been made under the influence.
- Pressure or discipline. Actually, that would be LACK of discipline with a great big dose of pressure from friends, family, boyfriends/girlfriends.
- Media. The ‘mainstream media’ is in many forms that run in the background of our lives every day. We hear commercials, watch shows & movies, listen to music, read magazines & books, the internet…all of which indoctrinates us with what they think we need to know all the time and without your permission.
- Trust. We trust everyone and everything else but God. Again, I can 100% assure you that God will never give you an abortion answer to any question. EVER.
Stats say that at least 85% of women/girls that abort never wanted to abort at all AND over 65% of women/girls were FORCED to abort. Coercion is the leading reason why we abort and we not only allowed it but accepted it until it was too late.
The indoctrination we receive, usually under the radar, is how our society has become desensitized to abortion. We are numb to the point of killing unborn children over 4000 times per day…that we know of. Our Failure of Abortion is a failure in our culture as human beings. I would love to say this is within the borders of the United States, but the daily abortion rate WORLDWIDE is way over 150,000…again, that we know of. Since the advent of ‘chemical abortion’ (mifepristone) and it’s availability over the internet, it is nearly impossible to know how many other unborn children are lost to abortion.
To look at the decisions made in this country to allow legal baby killing, you have to go back to when other decisions made way for it. At the turn of the 20th century, abortion was essentially abolished in the U.S., to the chagrin of many present day abolitionists. It is apparent that abolition was not ironclad enough to keep abortion not just illegal but also enforceable. But the question kept coming up about our ability to ‘evolve’ into a better species; it was questioned whether or not people with any disability (racial, mental, medical or hereditary) should be allowed to be born, marry or give birth themselves. Thus, people like Margaret Sanger came about to point out how the human race will fall if we allow these ‘human weeds’ to live and procreate. Apparently the inarticulate petrified the self-imposed intellectuals of the day.
Personally, I look back to the Roosevelt presidency and see that as soon as entitlement came about, abortion was right behind it, illegal still but still rampant. It was simple, really, to see how someone that was disabled to be the Father of Entitlement and inclusion. Just like Americans thought Roosevelt was the savior of the Great Depression, it is as it is today with Obama and the Socialistic Regime he has imposed on us with a hardly regulated abortion INDUSTRY. After all, if they kill them in the womb, there would be less ‘waste’?
And let’s not forget the failed Equal Rights Amendment – quite simply, women didn’t want to be EQUAL with men, they wanted (and still do) to conquer men and found a way by eliminating pregnancy through abortion without their consent. Roe v. Wade was a parting gift for the failed Equal Rights Amendment; NEVER equal, but MILLIONS of dead unborn children to prove a woman’s right to be a killer:
“The Equal Rights Amendment was first proposed in 1923 by Alice Paul and the National Woman’s Party. It was passed by Congress in 1972 and sent to the states for ratification, which is achieved when a proposed amendment is accepted by three-quarters (38) of the states. By the Congressionally imposed deadline of June 30, 1982, only 35 states had voted yes……The Equal Rights Amendment is not yet in the U.S. Constitution.” (equalrightsamendment.org)
So far, women have undermined themselves, their health and their unborn children to make men and government quiver in fear for them. Ironically, NOTHING can be further from the truth. Right decisions, not reactionary decisions.
It’s not too late – right decisions are getting closer to making better law and hopefully to repeal bad law. Can we as a civil society finally repeal Roe v. Wade? Yes. Will we? That remains to be seen in this lifetime, but God is GOD and with Him all things are possible (Matthew 19:26).
THE FAILURE OF ABORTION, PART 3 – Failure in the System
The System is comprised of the building blocks of the Church, Family, and Government. Many blocks made the building that is the abortion facility. The Failure in the System in right decisions is another reason why we have abortion law and acceptance. It is the failure in the system that gave us over 55+ MILLION DEAD.
The failure of abortion is a personal failure in our lives that pointed to that exact moment at the abortion facility. Now, we could have said a resounding NO that day, but we did not….most of us wanted to say no, some of us did, but we were shoved by family/friends/spouses and herded into a pen with others that had the same pale deathly fear on their faces. We looked at each other frantically nearly to panic attack mode looking for the back door. And if you think about it, there is never a back door to escape in the abortion facility…by design.
SIDE NOTE: Have you ever seen the movie ‘Rosemary’s Baby’ when she realized why she was on the table looking at all the people she trusted…and all they wanted was her baby. I remember distinctly feeling exactly like this, as if everyone was in on it but me. To this day, it chills me to the bone….the System – my system – failed me.
The abortion facility workers made no attempt to look into our eyes and seemed almost dead themselves. When will this be over…when will normal come back? Never. On THAT day, we were about to embark into the ‘new normal’ of being a brand new American demographic: post-abortive. Post-abortive women make up about 1/3 of all women. How’s that for system failure?
The Failure in the System made this bed we were forced to sleep in forever.
The failure of abortion is not just our personal MORAL failure; it is failure in the Church that did not preach against it. It is failure in our government to protect all life as our founding documents promised and has not – it is the FAILURE OF THE WORLD SYSTEM to allow such a thing to curb the population over the statisticians fear of global warming, lack of water and food, a significant rise in third world regimes, and an overall declining economy.
Lastly and most importantly, it is the system’s failure of FAMILY. The failure in the system is a symptom of our failed family dynamic:
- Men don’t want to be or have to be husbands or fathers
- Women are empowered by the government to be single and childless
These two points are why women/girls abort at the rate of nearly 25% of all pregnancies in the United States. Parents push their girls to abortion to alleviate any financial burden that a grandchild conceived out of wedlock will incur. It used to be that parents quietly sent their girls away for a few months…now they usher them into abortion facilities with expressionless faces as if it’s another day like any other.
The failure in the system is not a reaction – it is a fact. Abortion kills, the system allows it: FAILURE.
THE FAILURE OF ABORTION, PART 4 – Failure of the Church
Is the Church prolife? It’s hard to even comprehend that we have to ask that question. In times past, abortion was never sanctioned even in ‘dire circumstances’, but since 1973 it has become a quagmire of relevancy so that no one is offended; millions are dead, millions are suffering. And the church stood silent in agreement.
No, the Church is GUILTY. The Church as failed women and children in crisis.
As a nation that was founded on Christian principles, the United States of America has told God that He is no longer welcome. The Failure of the Church allowed evolution to be taught in schools and prayer taken out. The Failure of the Church allowed the radicalized liberal Agenda into schools, the Federal Government, and, ironically, right back into the church as ‘social gospel’. The Church has acquiesced and applauded abortion and contraception. And now we pay the price with the lives of aborted children and the post-abortive afterlife of nearly half of all men and women in the pews. Essentially, the Church allowed this evil and neglects it’s new demographic as if it’s NORMAL.
Is the Church placating a secular social agenda or truly reaching out to the community?
This new modern Church embarked on a fast track secular social gospel that has forfeited missions and outreaches that touch the afflicted in the community. Social gospel has skyrocketed church attendance but the true Gospel has suffered. And if the true Gospel suffers, then the message is weak with worldly motivational speakers rather than the True Message of Jesus Christ, a message of LIFE and LOVE.
Are Pastors preaching a prolife message? Obviously not. How can helping women in crisis offend the flock to the point of ignoring the slaughter of MILLIONS of children? A Pastor once said that we don’t give God enough credit to BE God to those who need Him. He’s not wrong.
In my community of about 800K, there are hundreds of churches surrounding ONE ABORTION MILL. Just one. Churches don’t have a real burden for real women in real crisis. If the Church did, the sidewalks would be filled to overflowing, which takes money away from the abortionists, which closes these killing mills. Sidewalk outreaches are POWERFUL; they help women with their immediate needs while saving lives.
The Church is churning out a bunch of unsaved, unhealthy, post-abortive, ecumenical motivational junkies. There is no Jesus, no accountability. Much of the secularized Church has embraced abortion. Their social gospel is a out loud type of social justice that has forgotten about the afflicted one, the unborn child. This new ‘church’ will stop traffic to help a puppy but has no intentions of stopping the murder of innocent unborn people.
An Episcopal Priest, Katherine Ragsdale, said, “Using the word ‘baby’ is a manipulative lie…..a fetus is not a baby”, and she goes on to call the baby a ‘proleptic hope’. Ms. Ragsdale also drives MINOR GIRLS to abortion appointments behind their parent’s back. OFTEN. Without apology.
I would also note that the so-called “Nuns on the Bus” had much to do with luring Catholic women away from Church teaching, pointing them TO the abortion mill. The Pope denounced these women, but they still go all over the country preaching an anti-Catholic message. This I personally know well, these evil ‘nuns’ essentially put me on the abortionist table because the women in my family listened intently to them, believing their rhetoric and lies.
Even at that, which is bad enough, the Religious Coalition for Reproductive Choice is another so-called ‘ministry’ using social justice pastors to fill abortion mills. They say ‘abortion is normal’ and abortion is healthcare’. As pastors. And call themselves Christians.
THAT is the utter Failure of the Church. THAT is why our society is broken. THAT is why women are not revered but TOLERATED.
LET ME BE CLEAR: No real Christian will ever tell you abortion is normal, healthcare, or ever the right thing to do. EVER.
THE FAILURE OF ABORTION, PART 5 – Failure of Forgiveness
The Failure of Abortion is our failure as a person, as a Church, as a Family, as a Nation. Abortion is personal but exponential in the realm of human nature and accepted doctrine. We have grieved, protested, prayed, complained in the face of CHOICE…but have we forgiven? Consider this:
- ‘Blessed is he whose transgression is forgiven, whose sin is covered.’ (Psalm 32:1)
- ‘But there is forgiveness with You, that You may be feared.’ (Psalm 130:4)
- ‘To the Lord our God belong mercy and forgiveness, though we have rebelled against Him.’ (Daniel 9:9)
- ‘And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses.’ (Mark 11:25)
Probably the best Scripture reference about the ultimate act of forgiveness (besides the ones noted above) is straight from the mouth of Jesus Christ while He was nailed to the Cross was “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they do,” (Luke 23:34).
An open heart forgives, a closed mind is still trying to gather suspects. But trying to open the heart is like trying to pry open a sealed tomb.
‘Then Peter came to Him and said, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?” Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.’ (Matthew 18:21-22)
As I was testifying for the Heartbeat Bill, the chamber was overflowing with pro-abortion women and men that want to keep abortion not just legal but accessible to even minor children. While sitting there, it occurred to me that these people are just as guilty as the abortionist; they smile and nod in agreement. They vote for pro-abortion candidates and legislation. Yes, they are responsible for abortion as much as the post-abortive mom who carries her shame, grief and guilt while these pro-aborts have the unadulterated nerve to wear ‘lady parts’ costumes dancing in blasphemous nose-thumbing ridicule.
Then, in regard to what is of the law of the land (all law, not just abortion), Jesus said to “Render therefore to Caesar the things that are Caesar’s, and to God the things that are God’s (Matthew 21:22)” – essentially, we have to fight the government’s abortion law with the law and fight the Church’s ineptness of proper doctrine WITH proper doctrine, which is God’s. Jesus saw that there is and will always be a tug-of-war with Christians and Government and made this as simple as possible: Give back to Caesar AS A CHRISTIAN.
And then there’s the FAMILY….sigh. They are the worst offenders and need the most forgiveness, although they don’t think they do. Post-abortive women and men have been let down by their own families. Families always think they know better for you when in reality they are protecting themselves from your pregnancy. Family is who you are supposed to trust in turbulent times but that is not always the case, particularly in regard to unplanned out-of-wedlock pregnancies. But here we are, post-abortive, in a family that has an unforgiving heart…and God EXPECTS us to forgive them as He forgives us: ‘For I will be merciful to their unrighteousness, and their sins and their lawless deeds I will remember no more” (Hebrews 8:12).
Failure in Forgiveness is what keeps us bound down and tight in our past. Forgiveness is easy and free. We sinned, we repent, we are forgiven. Can’t get much simpler than that BUT YOU HAVE TO ASK TO RECEIVE. Then…you look for your accusers, just as the woman caught in adultery (John 8:4-11) and see that the accusers are the accused leaving one by one, in need of forgiveness themselves, then go and SIN NO MORE.
Is there really a conclusion to abortion and its ramifications? YES…for the individual and the Church. We cannot determine what the federal government will do next; Roe totally usurped the Constitutional right for states to be sovereign, with abortion law working quite well without the Supreme Court’s help.
KeepLifeLegal supports the states right to govern themselves, vote for their own leaders and support their own state Constitution as they see fit. Federally imposing abortion as a Constitutional right was a scare tactic because the prolife movement in that day was working, turning women to real help rather than premeditated murder of their own unborn child. Roe put women in the crosshairs of losing their ability to be God’s woman to being a woman for all men.
Roe created more strife, homelessness, hopelessness and poverty than any other law. It is truly an abortion agenda, not a “woman’s right to choose”.
Through this five part series, I hope that you have learned that the abortion agenda is truly pointed right at you but you can say NO MORE! It is a woman’s right to HEAL, it is our right to RESTORATION, and it is our right to FORGIVE and for FORGIVENESS.
We are God’s woman! Rejoice in His ability to heal, restore and forgive and have joy with the knowledge that you can be totally restored even after abortion: “v11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. v12 Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. v13 And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart. v14 I will be found by you, says the Lord, and I will bring you back from your captivity….”. Jeremiah 29:11-14a.