This post is not about being post-op from abortion, this is about what to do with the questions and guilt. And if you don’t have them yet, I assure you…you will. The reality of aborting your own child is…..a reality.
She said “I had no desire to be healed.” Read her story here.
When I saw these seven words, they looked like neon – bright and flashing. Not only did I not desire TO be healed, I still felt I did nothing wrong to be healed from. This is not abnormal, everyone wants to be validated for their rotten behavior and choices. After all, it’s all about YOU, isn’t it? If it were not, your baby….MY baby…would be alive today.
Who told you that this life you have was just for your pleasure and amusement? I believe I would be correct is saying the obvious: Your mother chose life for you in spite of her own hopes and dreams [yes, she had them too]. Don’t make the mistake to think yourself so big and bad that you won’t have to deal with Post Abortion Stress Syndrome.
And if you were born on or after 1973, you should consider yourself a SURVIVOR of Roe. I lost a sibling to abortion in 1976, and if statistics are true, then the odds that you have lost a sibling or cousin or friend is very great.
But lets get back to healing.
Why do women abort? Don’t kid yourself, most women abort for the exact same reason you did: because you can and because you have cast yourself as more important than your own unborn child. You have to admit you have a problem….a ‘self’ problem. And that problem murdered your baby for your own selfishness. You made yourself as God.
Your attempt to tell me you don’t believe in God does not make Him go away.
After you have the revelation that your choice took a life, you will have questions about your baby, about your body, about the reality that your life is not what you thought it was…because if it were, you would not be post abortive. I know women who were so damaged by abortion that they could not have children. Abortionists are hacks and have no regard for women, only money.
Every person has to deal with the reality of what happened to get to the next step of healing. And to heal, you have to be forgiven. Start by forgiving yourself. Like you, I was too pompous to believe I needed forgiveness and healing. I walked around like a superstar but the truth is that I grieved God and myself and my baby was dead. I was empty, I was paralyzed.
Lots of women have another child to replace the aborted one. But you need to know that every baby, from the time of conception, has his/her own DNA and blood type. You need to get the revelation that your aborted baby was an individual that cannot be replaced or rebuilt. His/her life is over, aborted, dead.
God wants to heal you but you have to ask. You can’t have it both ways. There is no magic wand, no pills or psycho-babble that will replace your child or heal your heart. Only God can do that.
And if there is one thing I can pass on to you today, it’s this: As much as your mother loves you, God loves you even MORE to immeasurable! NO ONE can love you like that. You killed your baby for yourself, God sacrificed His only Son for YOU so you would have abundant LIFE. There is no substitute for Jesus.
Today your Life can begin, confess and accept:
But what does it say? “The word is near you, in your mouth and in your heart” (that is, the word of faith which we preach): that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. For the Scripture says, “Whoever believes on Him will not be put to shame.” For there is no distinction between Jew and Greek, for the same Lord over all is rich to all who call upon Him. For “whoever calls on the name of the Lord shall be saved.” Romans 10:8-13
Being nearly 37 years post abortive, it took Jesus to change my life, to heal. God Bless you all, Trust GOD.