#MeToo & Gross Abuse of Power? Monica says YES. So do I.

There’s a problem with the #MeToo ‘movement’: GROSS ABUSE OF POWER was consented to by women. So here’s the thing…Monica Lewinsky is absolutely CORRECT. Was she violated? YES. And here’s why gross abuse of power matters.

The #MeToo movement has kind of fudged what sexual harassment is by lumping all ofGoliathChurchSign their ‘stories’ together. I will say this: nearly every woman in the United States, and probably around the world, will tell you a type of #MeToo story. Each one is different, none are exactly the same, but in the end most women have felt violated, even after ‘consent’. Including me.

Now, not all men are bad. So don’t go there. But personally, I have felt some violation to gross violation, but nearly every single incident was a ‘gross abuse of power’ by a man who was a boss, public figure, or something similar. What the #MeToo movement has NOT said or even alluded to is consenting women have to own what they did with someone they should have never been with. I am so weary of women whining that it wasn’t their fault. Let me help you with something: If you willingly took off your clothes and consented to sex, then that’s just as much on YOU. Again, been there.

Monica consented, probably because the President of the United States hit on her. In her mind she thought – or rather, Bill taught her – she was ‘special’, that someone like him would want someone like her. That’s how men in power work. They play on your PRIDE and VANITY and INSECURITY until you’ve been groomed to consent.

“I’m beginning to entertain the notion that in such a circumstance the idea of consent might well be rendered moot. (Although power imbalances — and the ability to abuse them — do exist even when the sex has been consensual,)” she wrote. “But it’s … very, very complicated. The dictionary definition of “consent”? ‘To give permission for something to happen.’ And yet what did the ‘something’ mean in this instance, given the power dynamics, his position, and my age? Was the “something” just about crossing a line of sexual (and later emotional) intimacy? (An intimacy I wanted — with a 22-year-old’s limited understanding of the consequences.) “He was my boss. He was the most powerful man on the planet. He was 27 years my senior, with enough life experience to know better. He was, at the time, at the pinnacle of his career, while I was in my first job out of college,” she said. [Read the rest here]

Grooming is a process….a long process. Men in power love the chase, women love the ‘courting’. But at the end of the day, we’ve been used and violated, consenting to it, and now we have to live with it.

There isn’t always only two people involved in this violation, and the woman may not be the only victim. If she becomes pregnant, using his gross abuse of power, he will probably want her to abort the ‘evidence’. Again, been there, my own mother did exactly that expecting him to be a father and leave his wife. Rather, I have an aborted sibling in Heaven because of his gross abuse of power and her inability to say no to him.

Ladies, this is never of God. God would never put you in a position to be abused in any way. Trust Him, pray and discern.

Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.
Proverbs 31:30

 

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