#TOLERANCE BYTES: Adoption & Religious Freedom

Being prolife, we have to be prolife a child’s entire life, from conception to natural death. There are so many kids out there that need traditional homes, that WANT traditional homes, with a married man and woman, a mom and a dad. I cannot imagine that any child that is adoptable wants to be exploited by an agenda. However, children don’t have a choice in who will be their new parents. The only people whose choice is accepted is the adoption agency, social workers, the parents-to-be and the judge. Children who are too young to acknowledge the adoption has to trust in the ‘system’ to place them with the family who will be most beneficial to them. But that is hardly the case. Even though the Constitution gives every American the right of religious freedom, we cannot give adoptable children and faith-based adoption agencies the same rights? 

Once again, the child has no voice or choice in the matter; a choice of the life they wish to have and who will provide it. As parents, we all know that a great start in life will provide children with the necessary tools for the rest of their lives. But giving them over to an agenda? That is an entirely different matter. 

Some years ago, we knew of a family in crisis who was forced to place their baby in temporary foster care, which was hard enough, but the STATE placed their baby with a lesbian couple. The baby’s parents and extended family asked that the baby be placed with other family members or a Christian traditional foster family – and the STATE said NO. Shouldn’t the parents have a voice in the matter? Much like medical kidnapping/foster care, children in crisis are at the mercy of a merciless system, state, and country. 

We also know of a same sex couple who adopted a special needs child and exploits it. ALL. THE. TIME. Same sex couples believe that they are taking who no one else will, as if it’s some GRAND sacrifice, but the TRUTH is that adoption is made very difficult to the traditional family because of the costs; just healthcare insurance alone for the child or children in question is nearly unattainable for most hard working, every day families BESIDES attorney and agency fees.

With all of this agenda and exploitation and money changing hands, wasn’t adoption supposed to be about helping these kids get real traditional homes as quickly as possible? 

Then, what also should be addressed here is why same sex couples go to faith-based adoption agencies in the first place…OR why the LGBT is targeting them in the first. Do you really think they do not know the basics of Catholicism, to name just one faith-based agency?

An article in the Detroit Free Press says: “Faith based agencies need to be able to recuse themselves from adoptions that would go against their faith based beliefs.” Now, while that is commendable, that isn’t enough. Adoption needs to be affordable and attainable to real families who really want to help children in crisis. Adoption needs real reform real quick. 

While the state of Ohio passed a new law to unseal adoption records, which we disagree with, this still hasn’t touched what needs to be fixed in the system. The origins of one’s birth is quite a bit different than handing children over to an agenda rather than traditional homes that were once not only the norm, but the only legal way to adopt. 

I know…then a bunch of kids would still be in foster care and ‘age out’ if they weren’t handed over to the LGBT agenda and single parents. The answer to that is the answer we give to most of the the injustice in the world: IT FIRST HAS TO START AT HOME AND IN THE CHURCH. 

Religious freedom has to be protected and enforced at all times for everything. Being intolerant of the Constitution weakens everything every person holds dear: PERSONAL FREEDOMS AND LIBERTIES. If you take just one away from just one sect of people, you have just shot a hole in your own boat.

Read more about Protect Religious Freedom Dayton here.

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AFTER ADOPTION: Your Sacrifice is Their Forever.

Every child saved from abortion has approximately 35 couples waiting YEARS to adopt. YEARS. On the sidewalk, we recently knew of a woman considering adoption and in under 60 seconds we personally knew of 5 families that would adopt, no questions asked of the baby’s circumstances, race, health, etc. While adoption is the perfect solution, it doesn’t go without the sacrifice.

And there is the other side of adoption. A good friend asked :

“Can you have your church pray for my best friend . She gave her daughter up for adoption today and I don’t think it has fully hit her yet. I know she is making a very selfless decision and it really is for the best but I also know her heart is breaking right now. I just feel if a lot of people pray for her maybe it will help her heart heal faster.”

First, I am honored to have someone trust me enough to help her friend with such a hard thing. Second, I am impressed with her friend’s ability to be so selfless in such a selfish world. Third, I do not believe for one minute that her friend’s baby was unwanted, just unplanned. Fourth, prayer changes things and heals the brokenhearted. And fifth, I am thanking God for her!

God heals, God restores, God heals the brokenhearted:

“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
He counts the number of the stars; He calls them all by name.
Great is our Lord, and mighty in power; His understanding is infinite.” Psalms 147:3-5

When we are on the sidewalk, most of the moms will not choose life long enough to give their unwanted/unplanned child a chance with a family who has been waiting a very long time to be parents. We already know that most women did not want to abort at all but chose to because their dire circumstances coerced them into an abortion decision rather than life with a family ready to care for him/her.

God says there are NO unwanted children: Before I formed you in the womb I knew you; before you were born I sanctified you; I ordained you a prophet to the nations,” [Jer 1:5].

There are no orphans of God.

SURROGACY: Pride AND Playing God.

PRIDE AND PLAYING GOD? Now they call surrogates Breeders and wonder if this will hurt women? How can it not? But the most important part of this story of artificially created children is why America aborts 4K children per day but will pay a surrogate 20-40K to have babies for other people – does pride play a part in being a ‘biological’ parent rather than bringing love and security to a child already born? God brought children into the world to be taken care of by people who cherish His Creation whether they are ‘bios’ or not. Where is the love for ALL children?

“You can’t sell your kidney for profit but you can purchase an egg or sell a child,” she says. “There needs to be more checks and balances……Most of the consideration within surrogacy is toward the adults and what they want. Often, it’s not in the best interests of the children.” Read the rest here.

Surrogates are NOT the savior to a childless couple. Creating designer babies is abominable and a desperate attempt to be AS God.

“A lot of lawmakers aren’t looking at these issues. They’re seeing things at the People magazine level. Someone can’t have a baby, here’s this technology and let’s change the law so we can help them,” says Jennifer Lahl, founder of the Center for Bioethics and Culture, which produced the documentary “Breeders.” “But is this really good for women? [Will we] create a new class, or maybe a subclass, of women who will become breeders?” Read the rest here.

People are creating children in dishes for celebrities and gay couples, and some will force a surrogate to abort: The final straw came a few months ago. The rich couple settled [wanted a boy] for female embryos but wanted the surrogate to “reduce” (i.e., terminate) one of the female embryos if both of them took. They didn’t want to raise twin girls.” 

In a story just over a year ago, a surrogate was offered 10K to abort because of an abnormality: “The test confirmed her worst fears: It showed the baby did have a cleft lip and palate, a cyst in the brain, and a complex heart abnormality……..’Given the ultrasound findings, (the parents) feel that the interventions required to manage (the baby’s medical problems) are overwhelming for an infant, and that it is a more humane option to consider pregnancy termination‘.”

HUMANE? The surrogate chose not to abort, suffered a long legal battle but the child is with her new parents who aren’t scared of her health issues.

Surrogacy problems aren’t just here in America, there are countries that have made this a legal kind of ‘trade’, to have children for people abroad. But this has made other legal issues: “…stateless babies, a consequence of the increased popularity of assisted reproductive technology abroad and of the different ways across the world in which citizenship is granted…..a child is automatically granted a green card if the permanent resident mother has the baby in her home country and returns to the U.S. within two years of the birth……Caught between a complicated set of Indian and U.S. immigration laws, she’s not an American citizen like her biological father. But she’s also not Indian, which is where she was born through in vitro fertilization using donor eggs and a gestational carrier, and where now, as a citizen of no country, she’s trapped.”

India has become a hub for international surrogacy, which brings in more than $400 million a year; India has legalized commercial surrogacy.

Let the IVF statistics speak for themselves: ‘Of every 100 eggs fertilised [babies] in an IVF laboratory, only 5 will become live births. In other words, 95% of all IVF embryos are discarded, perish in the Petri dish or die in the womb.’ Read the rest here and here.

IVF babies either die during the process or are ‘reduced’…aborted. In recent years, IVF has nearly doubled because gay couples want children but cannot reproduce themselves. God made a way for a man and woman to have a family, but ‘man’ made a way through technology and sin to create what they cannot have NATURALLY.

Recently, a book from a well known Pastor in Texas wrote about a childless couple that had a child through IVF. Truly, IVF or artificial insemination is NOT of God and should NEVER be applauded by any Christian, much less a Pastor. Because of this Pastor’s stamp of approval of IVF/artificial insemination, he has shown that God is not GOD but the will of man is. God created man, we did  not create or polish up God.

We create a culture of death for poor women but pay out 20+K for ‘gestational carriers’ while 4K babies die every day in abortion facilities. It is BEYOND outrageous; it’s deplorable and SIN.

Adoption will be what saves our children from destruction, adoption saves the lives of who was once unwanted or orphaned. Children don’t have an expiration date – they are in need every minute of every day. For childless married couples, adoption is the Godly and loving option to give life to someone that wants to love you forever.

BOOK REPORT: Not All Pastors are #Prolife – Neither is IVF.

SPOILER ALERT: 95% of all IVF embryos are discarded, perish in the Petri dish or die in the womb. Now, consider how many Pastors/Churches/Denominations are okay with playing God with abortion and IVF. Read on.

I read books by Evangelical Pastors intermittently throughout my regular Bible reading and keeping up with current events. I don’t always agree with their ‘personal’ theology but when it steps on the toes of God and unborn children, I put on the brakes.

I purchased a book called the Audacity of Prayer. It’s filled with real testimonies of Christians with real medical issues and emergencies and how prayer brought them the miracle they needed. I love the encouragement that testimonies give us. However, there are Christians who truly believe that what happened to them was from God….but that’s not always so.

I was about two thirds through the book when a Chapter dedicated to a childless couple seeking to have children said they received their miracle children…through artificial means. In this particular instance, it was artificial insemination. Considering these people are dedicated Evangelical Christians and believed this to be of God was mind-blowing to me…especially because a Pastor that wrote this book didn’t seem to think this was not only wrong, but playing God and being God.

It’s one thing to “work out your own salvation with fear and trembling“, but it’s quite another to act as God and/or nod in approval as Pastor.

NO WHERE in the Bible does it say that it’s okay to allow a third party to assist in child making. In other words, IVF and artificial insemination.

However, the Bible does touch on adoption: “And the child grew, and she brought him to Pharaoh’s daughter, and he became her son. So she called his name Moses, saying, ‘Because I drew him out of the water’,” [Exodus 2:10].

There is biblical precedent for adoption. Adoption would have been the Godly thing to do. There are so many children these people could have blessed with a loving forever home rather than build themselves up using artificial means. That is not biblical or prolife.

God is not pleased with ANYONE acting on His behalf, particularly with those created in His Image. God is not pleased with ANYONE murdering his creation with abortion or creating their own ‘creation’. HE is GOD, we are not.

The Pastor that wrote this book needs to realize that he put his stamp of approval on artificial creation. I sincerely hope he sees his wrong. To summarize: This Pastor is NOT prolife.

Consider John.

In the abortion debate, it’s all about the woman. The law and the public never consider the father of the child. This happens in adoptions, too.

A young man named John Wyatt and his girlfriend were pregnant and did not consider abortion but instead chose to keep their baby. John and his family were looking forward to the arrival of a daughter that he would never meet. You see, his girlfriend snuck out of the hospital with their daughter and gave her up for adoption without his consent, in another state.

Read John Wyatts’s story here and others like it. His personal site is here.

At this point in John’s story, it’s typical of how the law erases the father so that the woman is placated and wooed by pitiful state and federal laws of who the parent is…that is, until she wants child support.

Much is the same with a woman’s ‘right’ to abort…the father of the unborn child has no foothold of keeping his child because the mother has been considered the ‘host’ of this baby growing in her body, not his – she has the ‘right’ to kill his baby or adopt the baby out without the father’s knowledge or consent.

What struck me again (because I’ve seen it too many times) in John’s story is that the adoptive parent’s attorney praises how financially well off the new parents are and how John couldn’t give his daughter the same financial freedom and lifestyle. These people sow seeds of doubt so that the biological parents might go away dejected and humiliated. Essentially what people like that attorney are saying is that we should be able to choose parents for children based on wealth and education and social class.

Too many fathers like John Wyatt are left behind because of social issues implicated by liberal lawmakers that don’t understand the full scope of the axe they are wielding. Dads lose their children every day in abortion clinics and in court because of bad law. While most women and girls that abort are coerced into their ‘decision’, there are some men that want their babies and some of these dads are never told of the child OR some are never told until after the ‘procedure’ which is the cruelest of all.

Adopting kids is not like rescuing a puppy and abortion is NEVER the answer to any question. Children are the future of our world not an afterthought or blight.

If you are a pregnant woman and considering adoption or abortion….please, consider John.