As a prolifer, a public one at that, I deal with all kinds of moms. I had the opportunity to know about the other side of parenting: The foster system.
Foster parents are definitely the unsung heroes of parenting. I always knew this but did not KNOW it until I was given the opportunity to serve. It was sweet, it was heartbreaking, it was worth it. Seeing someone in the lowest part of their little life was heart wrenching.
The foster system is NOT perfect; some kids slip through the cracks, and sometimes it may have been the best thing for the child in crisis. In our foster journey, it was the best for her. Even in her little two year old brain and memories, she fought me hard because that’s all she knew. There was breakthrough and love and a bunch of silliness.
I think of days watching her watch the rain.
I think of days watching her picking dandelions.
I think of days watching her dance with bubbles.
I imagine calico dresses and rolling hills for her to explore.
I wished for more time.
But then I realize that I just put her in a bubble of time that does not change. She never ages. She is always safe. And she always smiles.
I got to be a mom again. I got the chance to help a child understand her life matters. And that alone is more than enough.
Happy Mother’s Day!
Being prolife, we have to be prolife a child’s entire life, from conception to natural death. There are so many kids out there that need traditional homes, that WANT traditional homes, with a married man and woman, a mom and a dad. I cannot imagine that any child that is adoptable wants to be exploited by an agenda. However, children don’t have a choice in who will be their new parents. The only people whose choice is accepted is the adoption agency, social workers, the parents-to-be and the judge. Children who are too young to acknowledge the adoption has to trust in the ‘system’ to place them with the family who will be most beneficial to them. But that is hardly the case. Even though the Constitution gives every American the right of religious freedom, we cannot give adoptable children and faith-based adoption agencies the same rights?
Once again, the child has no voice or choice in the matter; a choice of the life they wish to have and who will provide it. As parents, we all know that a great start in life will provide children with the necessary tools for the rest of their lives. But giving them over to an agenda? That is an entirely different matter.
Some years ago, we knew of a family in crisis who was forced to place their baby in temporary foster care, which was hard enough, but the STATE placed their baby with a lesbian couple. The baby’s parents and extended family asked that the baby be placed with other family members or a Christian traditional foster family – and the STATE said NO. Shouldn’t the parents have a voice in the matter? Much like medical kidnapping/foster care, children in crisis are at the mercy of a merciless system, state, and country.
We also know of a same sex couple who adopted a special needs child and exploits it. ALL. THE. TIME. Same sex couples believe that they are taking who no one else will, as if it’s some GRAND sacrifice, but the TRUTH is that adoption is made very difficult to the traditional family because of the costs; just healthcare insurance alone for the child or children in question is nearly unattainable for most hard working, every day families BESIDES attorney and agency fees.
With all of this agenda and exploitation and money changing hands, wasn’t adoption supposed to be about helping these kids get real traditional homes as quickly as possible?
Then, what also should be addressed here is why same sex couples go to faith-based adoption agencies in the first place…OR why the LGBT is targeting them in the first. Do you really think they do not know the basics of Catholicism, to name just one faith-based agency?
An article in the Detroit Free Press says: “Faith based agencies need to be able to recuse themselves from adoptions that would go against their faith based beliefs.” Now, while that is commendable, that isn’t enough. Adoption needs to be affordable and attainable to real families who really want to help children in crisis. Adoption needs real reform real quick.
While the state of Ohio passed a new law to unseal adoption records, which we disagree with, this still hasn’t touched what needs to be fixed in the system. The origins of one’s birth is quite a bit different than handing children over to an agenda rather than traditional homes that were once not only the norm, but the only legal way to adopt.
I know…then a bunch of kids would still be in foster care and ‘age out’ if they weren’t handed over to the LGBT agenda and single parents. The answer to that is the answer we give to most of the the injustice in the world: IT FIRST HAS TO START AT HOME AND IN THE CHURCH.
Religious freedom has to be protected and enforced at all times for everything. Being intolerant of the Constitution weakens everything every person holds dear: PERSONAL FREEDOMS AND LIBERTIES. If you take just one away from just one sect of people, you have just shot a hole in your own boat.
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