REAL Post Abortive Healing & Support

This post is not about being post-op from abortion, this is about what to do with the questions and guilt. And if you don’t have them yet, I assure you…you will. The reality of aborting your own child is…..a reality.

She said “I had no desire to be healed.” Read her story here.

It PAYS to be the abortionist.

When I saw these seven words, they looked like neon – bright and flashing. Not only did I not desire TO be healed, I still felt I did nothing wrong to be healed from. This is not abnormal, everyone wants to be validated for their rotten behavior and choices. After all, it’s all about YOU, isn’t it? If it were not, your baby….MY baby…would be alive today.

Three bio-hazard tubs full of aborted baby remains. THIS is what abortion looks like.

Who told you that this life you have was just for your pleasure and amusement? I believe I would be correct is saying the obvious: Your mother chose life for you in spite of her own hopes and dreams [yes, she had them too]. Don’t make the mistake to think yourself so big and bad that you won’t have to deal with Post Abortion Stress Syndrome.

And if you were born on or after 1973, you should consider yourself a SURVIVOR of Roe. I lost a sibling to abortion in 1976, and if statistics are true, then the odds that you have lost a sibling or cousin or friend is very great.

But lets get back to healing.

Why do women abort? Don’t kid yourself, most women abort for the exact same reason you did: because you can and because you have cast yourself as more important than your own unborn child. You have to admit you have a problem….a ‘self’ problem. And that problem murdered your baby for your own selfishness. You made yourself as God.

Your attempt to tell me you don’t believe in God does not make Him go away.

standwithunborntexaswomenAfter you have the revelation that your choice took a life, you will have questions about your baby, about your body, about the reality that your life is not what you thought it was…because if it were, you would not be post abortive. I know women who were so damaged by abortion that they could not have children. Abortionists are hacks and have no regard for women, only money.

Every person has to deal with the reality of what happened to get to the next step of healing. And to heal, you have to be forgiven. Start by forgiving yourself. Like you, I was too pompous to believe I needed forgiveness and healing. I walked around like a superstar but the truth is that I grieved God and myself and my baby was dead. I was empty, I was paralyzed.

Lots of women have another child to replace the aborted one. But you need to know that every baby, from the time of conception, has his/her own DNA and blood type. You need to get the revelation that your aborted baby was an individual that cannot be replaced or rebuilt. His/her life is over, aborted, dead.

God wants to heal you but you have to ask. You can’t have it both ways. There is no magic wand, no pills or psycho-babble that will replace your child or heal your heart. Only God can do that.

And if there is one thing I can pass on to you today, it’s this: As much as your mother loves you, God loves you even MORE to immeasurable! NO ONE can love you like that.  You killed your baby for yourself, God sacrificed His only Son for YOU so you would have abundant LIFE. There is no substitute for Jesus.

Today your Life can begin, confess and accept:

But what does it say? “The word is near you, in your mouth and in your heart” (that is, the word of faith which we preach): that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. For the Scripture says, “Whoever believes on Him will not be put to shame.” For there is no distinction between Jew and Greek, for the same Lord over all is rich to all who call upon Him. For whoever calls on the name of the Lord shall be saved.” Romans 10:8-13

Being nearly 37 years post abortive, it took Jesus to change my life, to heal. God Bless you all, Trust GOD.

5 Abortion Myths Exposed – Beware of Proabort Rhetoric Ahead

Being God must be exhausting for the prochoice/proabort movement. The choices and laws you make for everyone else must be grueling; is it comforting to know that you can parent a country but you don’t have to be a parent to your unborn child? On behalf of women everywhere, DON’T DO ME ANY MORE FAVORS….I GOT THIS.

If a choice of any kind supersedes a right to life, then the choice is not only wrong but unthinkable. In 1973, a handful of people dressed in black robes told the United States that life will not impede law. While it is broadly known that abortion has been happening since ancient times, it was not blatantly lauded as a personal right to save your own life from the burden of being a mother or father. Abortion was not an assumed option for married couples, but it was and continues to be for adulterers and those who are sexual active before marriage. If you are prepared to have sex either before or outside of marriage, then be prepared for parenthood. Sacrificing a child’s life for your own is the highest form of narcissism.

But I love these idiotic articles; it makes me thankful that I know THE God that knows the right answers, that gives LIFE and loves us spite of us. I’m smart enough to know I don’t speak for God – He speaks for Himself while the prochoice rhetoric tries to speak for everyone despite our right to say no, which we have. The only person that speaks for me is God, not some flippy idiot dressed in a ‘lady parts’ costume or a death-defying God hater.

That being said, let’s debunk some abortion myths!

He said MYTH, 1: Laws against abortion have always been based on concern about unborn life.

THE TRUTH: The author states that abortion was legal up to the mid-19th century, which is partially true; it was legal as ‘common law’ since the English pilgrims crossed the Atlantic until about the turn of the 20th century. Abortion is an ancient craft and was called ‘witchery’. Abortion was usually performed by midwives that had knowledge of using herbs [emmenagogue herbs] which ‘encourage’ menstruation, thus aborting or ‘emptying’ the contents of the womb.

The unborn have always been forefront in every illustration, every example and every instance of the Prolife Movement. The statement that abortion was not about the unborn is just plain ASININE: If it weren’t for the unborn victims and dead or injured women, there would not be an argument: MYTH EXPOSED.

He said MYTH, 2: Until Roe v. Wade, back-alley procedures killed countless women, and that risk would return if abortion were outlawed.

THE TRUTH: This has to be the most tired of all myths of abortion and Roe. And since the author used Guttmacher, which is an offshoot of PLANNED PARENTHOOD, I would call their findings rather partial to the abortion agenda. However, in regard to illegal back alley abortions, I would say correctly that the Kermitt Gosnell trial is just the tip of the iceberg of other illegal abortion practitioners that practice in plain sight all over the United States.

Our understanding of what Roe is will justly show that this act of law is just exactly that, an act of law that has an agenda. Making abortion illegal will not stop abortions, just like drugs being illegal will not stop drug activity, manufacturing, distribution or deaths. HOWEVER, abortion always kills a living person and should never be legal for any reason. Making the argument that less WOMEN will die because it’s legal is IGNORANT; the death of an immigrant woman at Gosnell’s facility should tip you off; again, just the tip of the abortion iceberg. Many women have died or have been injured from the abortion procedure SINCE ROE. Again, what the author does not report is what happens during an abortion procedure: THE UNBORN BABY DIES AND WAS THE INTENDED VICTIM. MYTH EXPOSED.

He said MYTH, 3: Roe led to a huge increase in the number of abortions.

THE TRUTH: The author’s intent is to move you to see what an affiliated numbers cruncher, Guttmacher Institute, says about abortion statistics. The author remarks that Guttmacher reports at least 1 million abortions occurred per year prior to Roe. Interesting that there are real numbers regarding an illegal act…much like expecting the mafia to call in their activity so that we can study the statistics of organized crime.  Guttmacher = Planned Parenthood, the largest provider of abortions in the United States, funded by your tax dollars to lobby, fund and endorse liberal democrat politicians for election and reelection to extend and moralize abortion. MYTH EXPOSED.

He said MYTH, 4: Women who end their pregnancies tend to suffer various psychological and physical illnesses.

THE TRUTH: I’ve heard it all…there is no connection to psychosis or disorder, “it’s all in your head”, every liberal university in the entire world has ruled out Post Abortion Stress Syndrome…I have to wonder at their criteria and who they actually ask. I have made the case for Planned Parenthood weeding out the proabort post abortive  they ‘serviced’ to claim there is no after effect…..but I’m here to tell you that I do know about Post Abortion Stress Syndrome since I am post-abortive. There is help and I can tell you that after MANY years of guilt, regret and shame that there is healing after abortion. I initially sought healing through alcohol, like many other post abortive women do. Then one day God sat me down, told me I was a sinner that need Salvation. The godless says it’s all in your head, but THE GOD says He will heal you, if you only ask. MYTH EXPOSED: Check out the resources below.

He said MYTH, 5: “Choice” guarantees woman the opportunity to decide whether to become a mother.

THE TRUTH: That is truth. Choice has many guarantees besides being a parent or not; it also guarantees your own right to life to be less than it was 40 years ago. It may guarantee your family’s right to exterminate you when you’re too sick and old to make your own choice for life. Your choice to abort has made the choice to annihilate the generations that could have been born and had their own families. Your choice has made other laws to demoralize unborn human life by the sex of the baby or perceived illness the baby may have. Your choice has demonized the right to teach our own children about how God hates abortion. Exercising your right to choose is much like the addict’s right to shoot up; the addict thinks they are only hurting themselves but the reality is that it affects an entire family. Choosing to abort takes your family’s right away from being a grandparent, aunt or uncle, sister or brother, friend and neighbor. Your choice can affect hundreds of people…so all of this just being about you??? MYTH EXPOSED.

If you are pregnant, God chose YOU, no matter the circumstances, to be a parent to that child. Choose LIFE, not a life of regret.


Men grieve.

I don’t often write about post-abortive fathers simply because I’m not one, but I do know men that are. Men are funny creatures; they keep a lot close to the vest, maybe because of shame or they really don’t know how to share something so personal they don’t understand; perhaps because their partner/spouse at the time of the abortion didn’t tell them until after the abortion? The latter happens much more than you’d think.

Abortion is supposed to be about and for women, right? According to the law, it is. But there was never an amendment to allow a man to be in the decision making process and that was by design. Women wanted to be more powerful than men being able to hold their unborn child hostage.

A famous rock star ‘came out’ about the abortion he and his girlfriend had back in the ‘70’s. If I read it correctly, it was a saline abortion which is maybe the most heinous way to end a life, “You go to the doctor and they put the needle in her belly and they squeeze the stuff in and you watch. And it comes out dead. I was pretty devastated.” He knew it was a son. Apparently he witnessed this awful thing and he suffered with post-traumatic stress for years. I can let you know this: Abortion is something one never forgets. Ever.

Some of us mark that tragic event with alcohol or drugs or whatever even though the “American Psychiatric Association assures us abortion is a safe procedure with no negative effects on a man’s or a woman’s mental health.” (National Review, 5/4/11)

Post-abortive men and women can’t make sense of the fragments of their lives and when you have ‘experts’ calling us liars, it moves you further and further into the hole that’s been dug for you by Roe v. Wade and Hell itself. We deal with propaganda from the ‘abortion agenda’ daily and I TAKE IT PERSONALLY.

King David grieved for his child that died as a result of sin, “And he said, “While the child was alive, I fasted and wept; for I said, ‘Who can tell whether the LORD will be gracious to me, that the child may live?’ But now he is dead; why should I fast? Can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he shall not return to me.” 2Samuel 12:22-23, NKJV

David had comfort in knowing he would see his child again one day in Heaven. It was his reassurance that God did love him and his child and that His Will is Perfect.

The post-abortive man feels less of a man because he can’t control the loss of a child or the decision he made for his partner/spouse. What he needs to do is understand that his child is nestled with the Father. Since the loss of my child through abortion, I have not been comforted with booze or any other deliberate sin although I tried. But I am comforted by God’s forgiveness and that my child is with Him…and I will see her one day because of God’s mercy.

Data versus Pseudoscience

A prochoicer wrote, “When wishes trump science, when desire pushes data aside, pseudoscience reigns.” It is their wish that we Prolifers would just go away while the holocaust continues.

Yep…and if horses were wishes, beggars would ride.

Ironically, I got this from a guy that says there is no science data regarding the abortion/breast cancer link and Post Abortion Stress Syndrome. For one thing, he is WRONG.

Let’s be scientific specific: If a woman experiences a ‘spontaneous’ abortion, she actually had what is commonly called a ‘miscarriage’. In this scenario, the woman’s body knows before she does that her baby will not survive. However, when a surgical or medical abortion is obtained, the ‘doctor’ has stopped the woman’s body from being pregnant to being not pregnant thus throwing her hormones into a tornado-like effect inside her body. Her body is now in a kind of state of ‘shock’ from the procedure and is trying to keep up with trying to get back to normal. In this process, breast tissue is particularly affected.

Getting back to pseudoscience…

Incredibly, prochoicers are the worst offenders of this ‘practice’ of conjuring up ‘data’. For instance, while researching Post Abortion Stress Syndrome, it’s blatantly obvious where they get their ‘data’…from participating abortion facilities. Their data says, “There is no such thing as Post Abortion Stress Syndrome – even after two years women do not have symptoms and most do not regret their decision to abort”.

It would take me ten minutes to conjure up a bunch of young women that are card carrying feminists that have aborted and don’t care that they took the life of an unborn child.

A nice bit of brainwashing, eh? The last ‘study’ I read about not only said women must have been nuts before their abortion to be nuts after it, but also pointed to women that had children that have the same issues. According to THEM, having children at all makes us crazy. And by THEM I mean so-called scholars and experts in Europe, not the United States. Again, PSEUDOSCIENCE.

Women that are Post Abortive almost always regret the choice that they made. They are sorrowful and full of grief and shame and they are scared to death to talk about it. It’s their ‘dirty little secret’ that no one knows but them. It takes YEARS to come out of the closet and talk about it. Stigma is a foul stench.

There are stacks of real data regarding Post Abortion Stress Syndrome, reams and reams of it. A great source is the Elliot Institute as well as many others. What I really like about the Elliot Institute is that they cite every data source; no lying, no junk, no pseudoscience.

To all of my Post Abortive friends, there is real data and real stories, just like yours and mine. We are not alone.