And sometimes, it’s Festivus for the rest of us.
Many times I do not post on Mother’s Day. It came be a sad and depressing day for me, and many other moms who are on the other side of parenting.
Maybe you are estranged from your kids.
Maybe your pregnancy loss from miscarriage or abortion is too overwhelming.
Maybe your mom just passed away.
And that’s just one side of the other side of parenting.
Some moms gave their child up for adoption.
Some moms are in prison.
Some moms are still in recovery.
Some moms are still reeling from their kids taken away to foster care.
Some moms are dealing with a bad divorce.
Some moms are dealing with the death of her husband.
Some moms were abandoned.
Some moms feel they don’t deserve to be mothers and can’t get past the guilt.
There are so many sides to the other side of parenting. Mother’s Day can be a grim reminder of a past you can’t fix.
Why can’t moms just love life enough to let it spill over to their children? Because moms in crisis don’t have the luxury of being optimistic. It’s survival.
Mother’s Day is not a hallmark holiday for the rest of us. WE CANNOT CHANGE THE PAST but we can be more forward thinking for our future whether others in your life or family believe we deserve it or not.
Be kind to moms on Mother’s Day. You don’t know the grief they may be going through. I know for me, besides a bunch of other stuff I mentioned before, I lost my mom just last month. Even when your childhood wasn’t the best, or even at least ‘normal’, I still mourn her loss, knowing I cannot see her again on this side of heaven. But my hope still resides with Jesus, and eternity with Him, and seeing her again renewed and young and healthy again. I am forever thankful she chose life for me.
So set up the pole. Air your grievances. Show your feats of strength. YOU ARE A MOM. Society cannot take that away from you.
God bless all of you on this Mother’s Day. You are worthy of love and respect. Make this day a day of renewal and greater Love.